Have you been a good girl all your life? Did you spend your school life getting good grades, participating in the required number of extra curricular activities, behaving yourself at all the right moments and obeying all the relevant rules; basically doing everything which made your teachers praise you, your friends parents green at award nights and your parents glow with pride. Well girl sorry to say you haven't important lessons about real life besides the fact that you may have missed out on a lot of fun! You are in grave danger of wasting your life moping around about how your life turned out despite you following every rule in the book of success, hence I shall take it upon myself to forewarn you.
- For one you have turned into this thin skinned delicate maiden who faints every time anyone in a position of authority directs any criticism at you. A lifetime of being praised all the time will definitely make you unprepared for reality where despite your best efforts things will go wrong and you shall be blamed for it. And you shall not be prepared to face the harsh reality that "you were responsible for something going wrong", the requirements for this stomach turning experience need not even be someone hollering and hurling abuses at you, a slight frown, a stern word or even a raised eyebrow shall be enough to send your chin quivering.
- Did I say something about "despite your best efforts"? Well yes, its time you realize that you have turned into a monster of a perfectionist and well the only life your ending in the pursuit of a myth called perfectionism is yours alone. Doing one's best means just that, doing what you can given the resources. It does not mean that no mistakes will happen, it does not mean you can magically make the day longer by working all the time, your life is as short as everyone else's and while you are wasting your's pursuing pointless perfectionism, life is slipping past faster than you think.
So what shall be done now to end this circle of slavery because you are so high on the drug of being called a good girl? Well stop being a sissy and Woman Up! Develop a thick skin and take your life into your own hands. Stop wasting it trying to do what you have been taught in your convent education as the right thing to do, remember as always with everything in life, balance is the key. Hardworking, sincere, responsible can very well be the qualities used to describe a slave. Smarten up, use your brains about when and what to waste your breath on, accept life and yourself with your imperfections.
A very smart, handsome and charming man called Rhett Butler once said,“Until you've lost your reputation, you never realize what a burden it was or what freedom really is.” ― Gone With the Wind
So free yourself of the shackles and do what feels right, write your own set of rules and use your personal moral compass to make sense of all the direction which were written down for you. Make your own mistakes, write your own story and then you can tell the world what being a good girl really means.
P.S. I have not touched upon the extremely sensitive topic of how a good girl is supposed to behave in front of the opposite sex. We shall leave that one for another day I guess. ;)
